To Have And To Hold—Living Out Our Marriage Vows

Today my husband and I are celebrating our 42nd wedding anniversary. When we stood before the courthouse judge 42 years ago neither of us had any idea if we’d still be walking hand in hand 40+ years later. Actually we never really thought about it one way or the other. We’ve had our trials and tests over the years and I’ve shared about that extensively in this forum but today I’m celebrating…just celebrating.

I’m celebrating that we have Christ as the Center of our marriage. I’m celebrating that we have other’s back. I’m celebrating that we have a special bond that only we share. I’m celebrating that we have a tried, tested and true testimony of the goodness of God. I’m celebrating that we have a legacy to leave our children and grandchildren and great grandchildren. I’m celebrating that we have cheered one another on to love and good works. I’m celebrating that we have one another till death do us part.

I’m celebrating that we can hold each other accountable to keep God first. I’m celebrating that we can hold each other’s confidences and the deepest desires of each other hearts like a priceless treasure. I’m celebrating that we can hold each other in joy and in sorrow. I’m celebrating that I can hold his hand and he can hold mine. I’m celebrating that together we can put our hands in God’s hand and follow where He leads. I’m celebrating today. Simply celebrating.

Happy 42nd Anniversary to us. Glory to God.

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Building Racial Unity

A few weeks ago I was asked by a friend to share a little of my story as a bridge builder in her blog site. So this month my post will be ‘borrowed’ from Carol Marchant Gibbs site. So in my own words, here it is:

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Summertime And The Living Is Easy—Part 3

“Hey, what are you up to this summer?” I’m asked that question at least 2 times a week. Obviously, they’re not reading The Looking Glass By Kathy!! 😒😒

As I wrap up my explanation of what I’m doing this summer, I’m once again faced with the realization that you have to fight to be intentional. Protecting my Intentional Summer Slowdown (ISSD) causes me to wield the sword at various distractions. Often.

Nothing worthwhile comes without a battle, does it? If you’re going to be intentional about disconnecting to slowdown you’ve got to protect that sacred space. So, with that in mind here’s my final two focus points for my ISSD:

Read and Re-enter

Read–Right now I’m reading ‘Kill The Spider’ by Carlos Whittaker. As I read this book (and others) it helps deepen my resolve to be a better me. That’s my goal: reading to realign with God’s purpose and plan for me. I (personally) don’t use this time for reading fiction. My ISSD is the perfect time to sharpen my spirit and my skills as a spiritual mentor, leader and disciple–so my readings are deliberate–and intentional.

–Re-enter–In approximately 3 weeks I will re-enter my ‘normal life’. A life filled with both mundane as well as ministry responsibilities. A life that’s purposeful in my connections and calling. I make myself ready to re-enter before I fully immerse myself in a new season. I set some goals for myself–both ministry and personal. I break them down into bite size (doable) goals. Praying also gets my mind ready to once again take on a full load of responsibilities. I also spend lots of time asking God for wisdom and direction for the new ministry year AND listening to His voice about it. I also take time to thank God for the privilege and opportunity to slow down for the summer–intentionally.

How’s your summer going? Are you being intentional about slowing down?

Sending Summer Blessings ☀️


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Summertime And The Living Is Easy—Part 2

Welcome July!! I am continuing my Intentional Summer Slowdown (ISSD). I’m excited to share part two of what it looks like in my life as I slowdown from my role as a caregiver, a ministry leader, and spiritual mentor.

Last month I talked to you about what it means when I intentionally focus on being refreshed and resetting my priorities. You can read that here. Summer Slowdown Pt 1

Today, I want to shift my focus to–removing and reclaiming. What does that look like?

Remove–I struggle at times with removing myself from situations that cause drama, chaos and confusion mainly because that’s what I do for 9 months out of the year. I live in the thick of these things because of the call on my life. I find that I need to be intentional about removing that hat during my ISSD. Its hard though, because I love to enter the tunnel of chaos to find peace on the other side. It gives me life. You see, I consider myself a conversational bridge-builder, if you will. That means–my heart is drawn to tearing downs walls of division by having tough and truthful conversations about hard issues. It’s not always pretty and not always easy but it’s what I’m called to. It’s rewarding but as you can imagine, those conversations can bring a boat load of drama with them. I have to know when enough is enough and remove myself from being entangled–For the time being.

My ISSD is a great time for me to also remove myself from at least half of my social media interactions/distractions. I want to interact with those who are physically in my presence much more–my husband, children and grandchildren, for example. How many of you know that takes some intentionality? It’s so easy to get caught up on social media so much so that hours have passed without me even realizing it. Can you relate? Even though my calling expresses itself somewhat through the social media platform–I need to keep that in perspective, too. I need to control it and not allow it to control me. I intentionally focus on this during my summer slowdown.

There are surely other distractions and toxicity that I need to remove from my life for a slowdown season, if not permanently. I let God speak to me about it.

Reclaim–once I’ve made a conscious choice to be intentional about removing myself from situations that I know have a potential of elevating my stress level, I reclaim my time, peace, serenity, etc. How? I play my favorite worship songs, I reconnect with and pray for others, I rest my eyes in a quiet room, I retreat to my front porch with an ice cold tea (with 🍋) and my favorite magazine or a book. One of my favorite things is to watch good natured tv shows. Yes, they do exist!

How about you, dear one? Could God be speaking to you about removing and reclaiming this summer? What would that look like in your life? Listen and obey.

Stay tuned for my final post of this topic.


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