When The Unexpected Happens 

Last Sunday, my life took an unexpected turn. On the prior Thursday, I had planned my weekend just as I always do. I planned to shop on Friday and catch up with the shows on my DVR list.   Saturday I planned to watch Christmas movies all day then join my family for dinner at a local Italian restaurant. Two days down just like I planned. I was really looking forward to a lazy Sunday after an 8:45 meeting at church, then a class at 9:30, followed by spending time with our precious newcomers at 11. I got up at 6 and thought I should just chill until 7, so I got back in bed. At 7, I tried to get out of bed but couldn’t. I was in excruciating pain. Unexplained pain. “Pain, please don’t ruin my plans today”, I prayed. I had so much to do that I prayed and prayed or the pain to go away and I tried to push through. I did. I made it to church then came right home to lay down with the hopes that doing so would help relieve the pain. 12 hours later, the pain had become more intense and unbearable and I realized I needed medical attention.

What do you do when the unexpected suddenly happens and knocks you off your feet? Both literally and figuratively? Financial hardship? Accidents? Betrayal? Relational turmoil? Displacement? Loss of a loved one? Tragedy? Health issues? How do you know what to do next? What should you do next? When these things happen you feel like you’ve been hit by a 2×4 or run over by a truck, right? It’s overwhelming. It’s hard to get back up again, isn’t it? If you’re like me, you spend time crying out to God asking Him, “Why?” While He doesn’t always tell us why, He will tell us Who. It’s the Who that can help you when the why has no answers. It’s the Who you can call on when the unexpected happens. My friend, Jesus Christ is the Who.

He is the One who comforts, guides, draws near and never leaves us. He speaks to us, heals us, picks our heads up. He restores peace and joy, rises above our understanding, feels our pain, rescues us and gives us wisdom. 

Struggling with the unexpected today? Do you feel blindsided by what’s happening in your life that you never would have expected? 

After an unexpected and dramatic 4 day hospital stay, I was diagnosed, treated and released. I learned once again that in times like these I needed to focus on the Who and not the why. Looking into His face comforted me and strengthened me. He gave me hope. He gave me the strength to get up again. Looking in the face of Jesus will do the same for you. When you do, you will reflect His attributes and characteristics. #reflectChrist  Dear one, let the following scriptures wash over you like a gentle rain: 

 The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in Him. Nahum 1:7

I will lie down and sleep in peace, for You alone, O LORD, make me dwell in safety. Psalm 4:8

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight   Proverbs 3:5,6

Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:18

My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest. Exodus 33:14

Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another.  Forgive as the LORD forgave you. Colossians 3:13

All the ways of the LORD are loving and faithful. Psalm 25:10

LORD, You establish peace for us. All that we have accomplished, you have done for us. Isaiah  26:12

God will yet fill your mouth with laughter and your lips with shouts of joy. Job 8:21

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I love the book of Ruth for many reasons. The biggest reason is what God did in her life. Ruth was a foreigner and an outsider to the one true God, yet she was a woman who opened her heart and will to Him.  She got to know Him personally. I think that makes her a wise woman for sure.

As we end our series, 14 Ways A Wise Woman Builds Her House, let’s take a look back at what sets this woman apart from the foolish one. The Wise Woman:

  • knows her worth in Christ
  • builds her house on prayer
  • unleashes her creativity
  • trains her children to love and serve God
  • loves and celebrates her husband
  • reflects characteristics of the Proverbs 31 woman
  • is her husband’s crown
  • is industrious
  • is clothed with strength and dignity
  • is not afraid of the future
  • opens her mouth with wisdom
  • teaches kindness by example
  • doesn’t have a lazy bone in her body

Wow, that’s some list, isn’t it? Hopefully you’ve been both challenged and encouraged to build your house as a wise woman.  Let’s look at our last few verses: Proverbs 31:28-31.

28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;

    her husband also, and he praises her:

29 “Many women have done excellently,

    but you surpass them all.”

30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,

    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,

    and let her works praise her in the gates.

These verses sum up what I call graduation day. The virtuous woman has been an excellent woman, wife and mother. NOW, she gets her just reward. Notice that her children and husband rise up and call her blessed. She is now being honored by those who know her best. Her family. Her testimony is authenticated by those who are closer to her. Who are you when the outside world is not watching? Do you act the same way inside your home as you do with your friends? At Bible study? At work? At church? Well, this woman’s life was consistent. Now she was being praised and blessed because of that.

Notice that they rose up. Rising up is very deliberate. It’s a way of indicating something important is about to happen and/or it indicates that someone important is entering your presence. As prominent as her husband was in the city gates, he gives her a glowing review as his noble/excellent wife. Her children blessed her for being a mother that rose above the rest. Charm and beauty could not withstand the test of time and certainly could not produce the qualities that the fear of the LORD produced in her life. As we all know, physical appearance changes with time. Wisdom is what lasts. Wisdom is infinitely more valuable especially in God’s eyes.

Fear of the LORD, the Word of God says, is the beginning of wisdom (Psalm 111:10).  This woman feared God. Are you a God-fearing woman? Would your family describe you in that way? This woman is praised by a grateful husband. Her works are also praised in the gates (the city gate).  The city gate was the place of business dealings, legal transactions and social meetings. Her husband was known there. Good works shouted her praise, not the applause from people.  An excellent wife shall receive the work of her hands if the fear of the LORD has been the root from which that fruit has grown.

Let’s revisit Ruth as I end. Did you know Ruth was described like this? Listen to what Boaz said to her: “I will do for you whatever you ask, for all my people in the city know that you are a woman of excellence.” That’s how I want to be known: as an excellent and wise woman who builds her house on no other foundation than Jesus Christ, The Chief Cornerstone. I hope you do, too.

+First Look—Read Proverbs 31:28:31 and Ruth 3:11.

+Through The Looking Glass—How would you answer the questions sprinkled throughout this blog? How would others answer these questions about you?

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Welcome Back! I’ve missed meeting you here. It’s been quite sometime between part 12 and part 13 of this series. As this series winds down, I treasure all that I’ve learned from this noble wife. I hope you have, too.  Click here to read parts 1-12 of 14 Ways A Wise Woman Builds Her House.

Today in part 13 of 14,  let’s take a look at Proverbs 31:24-27:

She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. (CEB)

Earlier this month, I had the distinct privilege to write a tribute to my great grandmother and my grandmother on the anniversary of what would have been their 119th and 94th birthdays, respectively. (See my FB Page, The Looking Glass By Kathy). Together (along with my mom), these wise women helped shape the woman I’ve become.  They mentored me both formally and informally as I watched them live life and have conversations with and about them. I’ve inherited their resilience, their determination to live well and their drive to never quit. They are my legacy.  Just like the Virtuous Woman and all the characteristics that cause her to be admired and greatly esteemed, these women represent that (and more) to me. My wise women each imparted to me something I was lacking. God used them to help shape an impressionable young girl as I grew in wisdom and in stature in the LORD.

The Virtuous Woman was industrious.  My wise women’s lives mimicked hers in many ways. I remember my grandmother working long hours as a waitress at a local restaurant to earn a living. Basically living off of a meager salary and small or no tips. In God’s economy, her salary allowed her to own a home, give to others and enjoy a life filled with adventure and travels. My great grandmother and my mom were homemakers who created environments that others flocked to. Their homes were filled with lots of love, excitement, yummy smells, memories and were both warm and welcoming. From them, I learned to have a strong work ethic and value creating an environment that would minister to my family, friends and strangers alike.

The Virtuous Woman was clothed with strength and dignity and was not afraid of the future. My great grandmother, Annabell was a strong and stately woman. Born in 1896, she’d seen and experienced hard times in her life yet her shoulders were elegantly draped in a garment of praise. (See Isaiah 61:3) She never waivered in her praise and thankfulness to God. I remember sitting on the church pew and looking up at her as she sang hymns of praise to God with her sweet calm voice. I never heard her talk about her faith but always saw her live it to the utmost.

The Virtuous Woman opened her mouth with wisdom and the teaching of kindness was on her tongue. Like The Virtuous Woman, their testimonies stood on a firm foundation, none other than Christ Jesus himself.  Here’s what was said about my great grandmother and my grandmother in their obituaries:

GG- “She always showed her family and taught them that in the most critical judgments of themselves and especially of others, to be understanding and not to forget to look for that part which is also useful and acceptable.”

G- “She was a true friend with personal qualities of command and leadership.”

They both taught me well with their mouths and with their lives. Because of that, my life’s prayer is to #reflectChrist at all times.

The Virtuous Woman looked after her family and didn’t have a lazy bone in her. Like the Virtuous Woman, my mom looked after her family well. She made sure we had everything we needed and even some of our wants. She sacrificed so much for us.  My dad adored and cherished her. She loved and served him all the days of his life.

Watching and experiencing my great grandmother, my grandmother and my mom love and serve God and our family has truly inspired me to say, “Unless it is the LORD who builds the house, the builders’ work is pointless.” (Psalm 127:1 CEB)

A Wise Woman allows the LORD to build her house. I want the Lord to build my house, how about you?

+First Look: Read PSALM 127:1 

+Through The Looking Glass: As a Wise Woman who Builds Her House, what does this passage say to you? What tangible ways can you allow the LORD to build your house?

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“Ouch! Ouch!”, my 7 year-old granddaughter yelled as I tried to reintroduce an earring into the piercing in her ear.  She doesn’t like to keep earrings in her ears  but she likes it even less when I try to put the earrings back in after they’ve been out for a while. The longer the earring is not in that hole, the harder it is to put it back in.  She squeals and squirms as I try to fit the post of the earring into the hole.

I remember when I had my ears pierced as a little girl.  Oh the pain!! Back in the day, ears were pierced with a sterilized needle and then a piece of straw from a straw broom.  The straw was broken, burned on both ends and pushed through the hole.  A week or so later, the piercer would thread a piece of string through the hole to make sure the hole did not close before the piercing was permanently set.  I remembered my pain as I was trying to contain her pulling away from me. Suddenly, I could only imagine what it must have felt like for Jesus to be pierced!  Pierced for my sins. Pierced for the sins of the world.  He willingly bore that pain.  He didn’t resist it.

But He was pierced through for our transgressions, He was crushed for our iniquities; The chastening for our well-being fell upon Him, And by His scourging we are healed.  Isaiah 53:5  NASB

Pierced through.  Yes, pierced through for my sins and your sins.  Christ was “wounded” or “pierced”

(1) by the thorns;

(2) by the nails; and

(3) by the spear of the soldier.

Maybe you cannot relate to the piercing of the ears, nose, belly button, eyebrow, etc., but can you relate to having a soul pierced by pain?  A broken heart is a very real emotion. When I as a mom and a grandmother see my precious babies hurting in anyway, I am undone.  It feels like my very own soul is pierced.  When they hurt, I hurt.  Jesus’ mother, Mary, dealt with this same thing. It was prophesied by Simeon that her baby boy would suffer.  He would be a suffering servant.  Mary would suffer with Him, because of the nearness of her relation and affection for Him.  Think about that.  Not only was Jesus Christ body pierced, her soul would be pierced as well. Has your soul ever been pierced?  Is the pain of that piercing still fresh?

And Simeon blessed them and said to Mary His mother, “Behold, this Child is appointed for the fall and rise of many in Israel, and for a sign to be opposed—and a sword will pierce even your own soul—to the end that thoughts from many hearts may be revealed.” Luke 2:35

Mary would suffer much pain in watching her son be rejected.  Pain as caused by a sword. Consider this from Barnes’ Notes on the Bible: “Yes, a sword … – The sufferings and death of thy Son shall deeply afflict thy soul. And if Mary had not been thus forewarned and sustained by strong faith, she could not have borne the trials which came upon her Son; but God prepared her for it, and the mother of the dying Saviour was sustained.” 

Mary needed strong faith because of what was to come – the crucifixion of her precious son.  We, too, need strong faith when our souls are pierced because of what happens to our children.  But, just as Mary put her son in God’s hands, we must do the same.  We cannot keep our loved ones from feeling/dealing with pain.  Our pain is because we love them.

I’m so glad that God speaks through the ordinary, mundane tasks of my day (like putting in earrings).  I’m thankful that He reminded me that the pain of piercing affects the pierced and and those who love them.  Thank You, Jesus, for enduring the piercing pain so that I might be healed.  This Easter, may we remember the piercing.

+First Look:  The Bible has many references of piercings.  Look up the following scriptures: Psalm 22:16; Zechariah 12:10; 1 Timothy 6:10; Revelation 1:7; Hebrews 4:12

+Through The Looking Glass: What might God be saying to you in these passages?  Does it change the way you think about piercing the soul? Why or why not?  How does His piercing affect your eternal salvation? Give thanks.

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As a full-time homemaker, I am often referred to as John’s wife.  Because I am not employed outside my home, some people don’t know exactly how to refer to me.  So, I get the title of “John’s wife”.  That’s not a bad title considering I’ve loved being my husband’s wife for the past 36 years.  It is sad though that by overlooking my contribution to our marriage, family and home, they miss the best of him.  Well, virtuous woman, the opposite is also true.  When my husband is not recognized for who he is, the best of me is overlooked.  The Noble Wife has a tremendous amount of influence in how her husband is perceived.  Good or bad.

As I’ve previously stated here, this woman is so on the ball.  She’s got a lot going for herself. She has all sorts of gifts, talents and influence.  She knows her place. It’s a good place. She embraces her brilliant mind and God-given confidence.  She’s no shrinking violet. With that in mind,  Let’s take a look at today’s passage in Proverbs 31:23:

23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
    where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

I love that the virtuous woman’s husband is respected at the city gate.  The city gate was a place where the courts of justice were kept, where causes were heard and tried by the judges, the elders of the land.  This man was among them, was known there, taken notice of and celebrated, not so much for the beautiful garments she made him, but for his wisdom and for being the husband of such a woman. [Gill’s]  I love that!  He was respected among his peers for making a wise choice in choosing a wife.  Our husbands have their own ‘city gates’.  Places where they gather to do business and their places of activity: his job, his relationships with his children, his ministry, etc.  Do your husband’s peers think him wise for choosing you?  While we don’t (and shouldn’t) base our worth on what others think (even his family), the question bears noting here.

Proverbs 12:4 says that, “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.”

Ouch.  You see, a Godly wife contributes greatly to the success and prosperity of her husband.  I can only speak for myself, but I NEVER want to be a decay to my husband’s bones. I know for sure that I have been.  I want to be the CROWN on his head and bring life to him.  My desire and yes, my actions, should help my husband be free from anxiety and distraction in order to take his seat at the city gates.  I never want to be a hindrance to his advancement but help further it by being a wife of noble character.  Speaking well of him.  Being discreet.  Creating an environment where he can thrive.  Never giving him a reason to question or distrust my motives, my love, my dedication and commitment to him.

I love this by Gill’s Commentary.  It puts this into perspective to me.  Take a look:

Christ is the husband of the church in general, and of particular churches, and of every private believer; He fell in love with them, asked them of His Father, and betrothed them to Himself; and is a kind, tender, loving, and sympathizing husband to His church and people; that nourishes and cherishes them, and provides all things for them, and interests them in all He has: and He is “known” by them, in the dignity of His person, in the excellency of His offices, and the fullness of His grace; He is known by them in the relation of an husband; He is well known in the church of God, in the assembly of His saints, ( Psalms 76:1 ) ; He is known in the gates of Zion, in the public ministering of the word and ordinances; His name is celebrated, it becomes great and famous, wherever His Gospel is preached in the world; He is, “known in the provinces,” or, “among the cities,” when He sits among the elders of the landwhen He sits in his house, at His table, circled by His saints, His ancient ones; or as King, head, and husband of His people, on His throne in the church, encompassed with, the four and twenty elders, the representatives of Gospel churches, ( Revelation 4:2-4 ) and especially when He shall take to Himself His great power, and reign gloriously before His ancients, the patriarchs, prophets, and apostles, and all His saints, which will come with Him; whom He has loved with an everlasting love; who were chosen in Him before the foundation of the world; and had grace given them, in Him, before the world began, ( Isaiah 24:23 ) ; and when He shall come to judge the world, and will appear in great glory, and be seen and known of all; and shall sit on His throne of glory, and His elders also, sitting on twelve thrones, judging the tribes of Israel, ( Matthew 19:28 ).

Dear Virtuous Woman, just as Christ is known by us, His Bride, my husband is also known in his circle of influence because of me, his bride.  I never want the best of me to be overlooked.  Do you? LORD, may I never bring harm to his reputation or decay to his bones.  Amen.

I welcome your comments here.

+First Look: Re-read Proverbs 31:23–What is God saying to you after reading the commentary in this blog?  How do you perceive your relationship to Christ as a result of the commentary?

+Through The Looking Glass: How do you bring life to your husband among his circle of influence? How might you do better?

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