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I feel like I’ve always had a heart for homemaking. I loved and admired women in my family who really poured their heart and soul into creating an atmosphere that nurtured their families and those who entered in their space. I fondly remember being fully enveloped in the atmospheres created by my grandmother, great-grandmother and my mother. Outsiders were always happy when in their company. I remember my kindergarten teacher, Mrs. Stokes, planning a breakfast for us young-uns’ in our classroom. We were each asked to bring a china place setting on which to eat our breakfast and drink our tea. I was so excited to tell my mom all about it! She purchased a 5-piece place setting with ‘green stamps’ from the gas station! I can still remember it: it was white with silver trim and sprinkled with little blue flowers. As a kindergartener, I thought it was gorgeous! Did you know that everything tastes better on china? Well, it does!! Lol.

As I continue my series on 14 WAYS A WISE WOMAN BUILDS HER HOUSE we’ve covered Know your Worth, Prayer and a Hospitable Heart.   Today, Part 4 encourages you, the wise woman, to Unleash Your Creativity.  Genesis 1:1 tells us that “In the beginning, God created …”  As image bearers of God, I believe we have the ability to be creative because God created us that way. Many women never really tap into their full potential to express and live in their God-given creativity. What does embracing your creativity as a wise woman who builds your home look like?  Here are two examples:

  • By not following a script: learn to let go of ‘packaged expectations’. Go ahead and let the kids build that fort in the living room with your ‘good’ table cloths. You know the ones that are packed away awaiting that ‘special occasion’ that never comes. Use the ‘good’ china for breakfast. One time I set the table for dinner using my great-grandmother’s ‘good’ china, stemware and silver flatware and my young son wanted to know who was coming for dinner. When I told him that they deserved the same ‘specialness’ as company, he couldn’t get his head around that. The expectation was that only ‘special people’ eat off of the ‘good stuff’. What was I communicating to them? They weren’t special? Too often we keep reserved places in our homes that only special people can enter like the ‘formal’ living room or dining room. How about eating pizza at that forbidden dining room table tonight?
  • Unleash your love of something in a different surrounding: I love the beach. Rephrase, I love being at the beach, not being on the beach.  I love the fabrics and accessories that I find in beach homes.  The homes are decorated with beach/sea/water themes. This year, I decided to add a few beach accessories like sea shells and beach-scented candles to my home on land.  Why can’t I enjoy these things even though I’m not at the beach? Well, I can and I do!!

Wise woman, I believe the sky is the limit to where our creativity can lead us. Ask God to unleash your God-given creativity. Ask Him to help you see life in a whole new creative perspective. One that’s creatively colorful, out of the box, free and unique!   Be creative in the area of the 5 senses: seeing, hearing, feeling, touching, and tasting.  Look at life as a canvas upon which you allow God to create His unique creative design in your world through you. It will blow your mind.

+First Look: Read the Word of God’s account of creation in Genesis chapters 1 & 2.

+Through The Looking Glass: What do you notice in these chapters? How might God be directing you to respond?

Dear one, I would love to hear how God is using you to unleash your creativity. Please share your comments here.

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Can you hear the construction? Can you hear the hammers, the power tools, and the dump trucks removing the rubbish? Wise women all over the world are building homes.  Listen.  They are not building houses with human hands, but spiritual houses.  Houses that don’t necessarily resemble HGTV’s dream homes but homes whose environments resemble a haven on earth.  They resemble a house that is built on who she is in Christ, prayer and a hospitable heart.  God is building her house from the inside out.  Inside the very heart of the wise woman.  Can you see this house being built on The Foundation that stands through all time: Jesus the Christ?  It’s a beautiful masterpiece, isn’t it?

As we continue to move through the 14 Ways a Wise Woman Builds Her House, we’ve already covered two ways: Know Your Worth and Prayer.  This time we will add another wall to the house: hospitality.  Our primary focus will be on having a hospitable heart. The wise woman has a hospitable heart.  Hospitality is defined as the quality or disposition of receiving and treating guests and strangers in a warm, friendly, generous way. Disposition.  Does my heart reflect a hospitable disposition?

The Bible has many examples of hospitality extended to strangers.  Entertaining, while an expression or form of hospitality, doesn’t quite capture the essence of true hospitality.  Its true representation is an open heart.  As Trisha Wilkerson writes, hospitality is when we provide for the needs of others by giving of ourselves—even something as simple as our attention in a warm conversation.  Trisha says that true hospitality is sacrificial, uncomfortable and does not seek to impress others.  Hospitality flows from a hospitable heart.  It is more about your open heart and home, not your impressive entertaining skills.  Trisha, I couldn’t agree more.

The Greek word for hospitality is philoxemia.  It denotes a love of strangers and the poor. See Romans 12:13 and Proverbs 14:31.  We are called to love strangers like we love our own families and love the poor with no expectation of anything in return. [Proverbs 19:17]  It is the love of God that drives this kind of heart.  I have a hospitable heart when I engage with and give of my heart to strangers and the poor.  Like you, I have spoken to and engaged strangers while in the airport, grocery store, or while volunteering and especially at church.   I have a hospitable heart when I give my husband, children or grandchildren my undivided attention.  When I listen enough to engage in a warm conversation. This is true hospitality in its simplest form.

I don’t know about you but that takes the pressure off of having a picture-perfect house. You know, a house that boasts in a beautiful location and is beautifully appointed.  If my heart is warm, inviting and open, I am being hospitable.  When I invite you into my space (my life) I am the quintessential hostess.  The hostess with the mostest, if you will.   A hospitable heart in a regular house is warmer than a house with all the bells and whistles with a cold or grumpy hostess.  A well-worn sofa where I can put my feet up is better than a stiff sofa where I am expected to sit just so and sip my tea.  Better a bread crust shared in love than a slab of prime rib served in hate, right?  See Proverbs 15:17 MSG.  So, it makes sense to me to quit trying to make my house look picture-perfect at the expense of being truly and authentically hospitable .  I need to ask God to make my heart and attitude a place that welcomes Him first and then strangers and the poor.  Do you have a hospitable heart?    Do you look for opportunities to serve strangers and thus witness to them about the love of Christ?  The wise woman does and she builds her house with it.  Are you that wise woman?

+First Look: Read Romans 12:13; Proverbs 14:31; 1 Peter 4:9; 1 Timothy 3:2; Luke 5:29; Luke 14:12-14; Matthew 10:9-11; Genesis 18:1-22 and Romans 12:20-21

+Through The Looking Glass: As you read these scriptures, what stood out to you?  What encouraged, challenged or convicted you?  Which area in regards to having a hospital heart,  are you asking God to develop in you?  Reach out with a hospitable heart to someone today.

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In my last post, I challenged my readers to consider knowing their worth. Consider that the woman God made you to be is instrumental in how a wise woman builds her home.  Not knowing your worth is like being a woman who plucks her house down with her own hands. Why?  Because you cannot teach what you do not know.  If you don’t know (or struggle with knowing) your worth, the foundation you’re building a house on will not stand.  It’s like building a house on sand. It cannot stand.  (See Matt 7:26,27)

In this post, we will take a look at the second way a wise woman can build her home, a way she builds her area of influence.  Her domain, if you will.  Her area of stewardship.  She has been given her house to steward over it, after all.

House of Prayer—A wise woman builds her house through prayer.  A wise woman realizes that prayer confirms her utter dependence on God.  It’s the first words from her lips every morning.  It’s the first burden on her heart.  It’s the outward sign of a dependent and grateful heart.  A wise woman prays for her house.  She desires to know what God wants for her family and she trusts that God will direct her steps in influencing that.  She is in a constant state of prayer all day because that’s where her help comes from.  Consider the heart behind this traditional hymn penned by a homemaker:

I Need Thee Every Hour

I need Thee every hour, most gracious Lord;

No tender voice like Thine can peace afford.

I need Thee, oh, I need Thee;

Every hour I need Thee;

Oh, bless me now my Savior,

I come to Thee.

I need Thee every hour, stay close Thou nearby;

Temptations lose their power when Thou art nigh.

I need Thee, oh, I need Thee;

Every hour I need Thee;

Oh, bless me now, my Savior,

I come to Thee.

I need Thee, oh, I need Thee;

Every hour I need Thee;

Oh, bless me now, my Savior,

I come to Thee

“I need Thee ev’ry hour, most gracious Lord.” Author Annie Hawks was busy about her household chores one day when she started thinking about how much she depended on the Lord to help her through the day. Inspired, she took pencil and paper and began to write. The words came quickly and easily. She never imagined that her hasty verse would mean anything to anyone.  But yet it did.  It captures the burden and privilege of building a house.  We cannot do it without Him.  We need Him ev’ry hour.  We need His blessing, His direction.

Dear one, do you commit your day to the LORD when you open your eyes?  Do you say, “Good Morning, LORD” or “Good LORD it’s morning”?  The heart that depends on Him looks for His guidance and wisdom throughout the day and cries out to Him first thing in the morning. Psalm 63:1  She asks Him to prioritize her day.  She asks for the ability to be flexible. To look for ‘God moments’.  To recognize divine interruptions when they come.  And they will come.  She welcomes them as from the hand and heart of God.  Her heart praises Him with her last breath at night because He is faithful.  The wise woman builds her house on prayer.  The foolish woman tears it down with her own hands. Which one are you?

+First Look:

>Read Philippians 4:6-7.

+Through The Looking Glass:

>What kinds of things do you ask God for concerning building your house?

>Are your prayers wise?





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A wise woman builds her house, while a foolish woman tears hers down by her own efforts. Proverbs 14:1 TLB

I have heard this scripture taught many times over my 34 years as a Christ-Follower. Each time I hear or read it, it quickens my spirit.  My heart’s desire is to be a wise woman.  A wise woman who builds her house versus a foolish woman who tears it down by her own efforts.  I am still quite a work in progress though.  As I read this verse, I wonder if I could possibly be the foolish woman who was tearing her house down by my own efforts?  The tearing down of her house doesn’t seem accidental to me.  Seems there was an effort being made to tear it down.  Maybe it’s willful or maybe it’s indifference or maybe from a lack of knowledge.

Matthew Henry’s Commentary describes it like this:  a woman who has no fear of God, who is willful and wasteful, and indulges her own comfort, will as in certainly ruin her family, as if she plucked her house down.  Wow.  I ask myself, “Am I being wasteful of my time, talent and treasure?  Do I indulge in my own comfort to the exclusion of others in my home?”  I don’t know about you, but that really hit me.  I want to get this right before my God.  I want no part of being a foolish woman, do you?

Over the next several weeks, I hope to offer you several ways a wise woman builds her house. Married or single, you will find something here that will speak directly to you.  Here’s the first one:

  1.  Know your worth.  This is extremely vital to building a house on the right foundation.  A woman who knows her worth (in Christ) is a woman who can withstand criticism from others who consider building a home a total waste of time.  She knows this is a noble, God-honoring way of life.  She doesn’t waiver to and fro with consistent doubts about it.  She finds her purpose, calling and passion in Christ alone.  She embraces who God made her and who He says she is.  She allows Him to direct her steps.  Because she knows her worth, she has the ability to leave a lasting legacy unlike the foolish woman who can invoke ruin for future generations.  She counts it a privilege to be used by God in this way.  Proverbs 31:10 says: Who can find a virtuous woman? Her price is far above rubies.

I hope you are a woman who knows what you are worth to God. He paid far above rubies for you.  He paid for your life with His own.  Dear one, that means you are priceless!

+First Look: Read John 1:12; Galatians 3:26-29; Matt 5:13; John 15:16; 1 Cor. 3:16; 1 Cor. 3:9 and Psalm 139.

+Through the Looking Glass:

>Which one of these truths do you struggle with most? Ask God to help you accept what He says about you.

> Which resonates with you most? Praise God for who He made you to be.

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Has your prayer life hit a snag?  Does it feel redundant?  Are you wondering what it may look like to pray without ceasing?  How would you like to get creative with your prayers?

Here are 14 ways you can pray for others that you may never have thought of:

1.  Lay hands on your spouse while they are sleeping and pray for them.

2.  Pray for those who get wet in the rain.  Ask God to wash over them with the LIVING WATER.

3.  Pray for those eating at the table next to yours in a restaurant.  Pray that they will be filled with the BREAD OF LIFE.

4.  Pray for those on the plane with you.  Pray that they have the same attitude as that of the plane (in relation to the horizon).

5.  Pray for the people and incidents you see on your local news.

6.  Pray for kids you see playing on the playground.

7.  Pray for those in the service industry.

8.  Pray for the farmers.

9.  Pray for beauticians.

10. Pray for photographers.

11. Pray for the person you hug or kiss as you hug or kiss them.

12. Pray for your garbage collectors.

13. Pray while you set the table.

14. Pray when you hear the sirens of emergency vehicles.

+First Look–Read 1 Thessalonians 5:17.

+Through The Looking Glass–What is God showing you through this passage?  What other creative ways can you think of to pray?

I would love to hear your feedback on this post.  Leave me a comment below!

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